New Age Relationships...
Gone are the days when relationships used to be the essence of life. It is a grandfather-ish feeling when I say that, although much of it is true in a broad sense in today's world.
There was a time when meeting someone used to be a special event. You cherish the moment and long to the next meet. Then a bond builds up which forms the basis of a long term sustainable relationship. Put that in today's context and it sums up to... Yawn!!! What??
Now a days relationships are a three step process:
Step1: Bump - you meet someone by coincidence or accident. It may be love at first sight or a burning loin somewhere! Whichever way you look, there is a chemistry that is somehow brought into the picture.
Step2: Hump - From the first date to the first night is a breeze. Some say that it is the best way to know someone!! I guess it provides an intimate evaluation of where one stands to take this to the next level or maybe the next step!
Step3: Dump - The chemistry is all wrong. Somehow the realization of no connection, incompatibility or even "you are not the one" quotient becomes clear. So it is a sweet, no-hard-feeling bye-bye time! Till we meet again, if in time of need or in another situation, it was good knowing each other.
I feel this philosophy of Bump-Hump-Dump works very well now a days. So what if it did not last? Atleast you met someone. The burning loin was put off for a while. And no attachments or hard feelings!
Ain't life simple???
Have a good week!!
;-))
There was a time when meeting someone used to be a special event. You cherish the moment and long to the next meet. Then a bond builds up which forms the basis of a long term sustainable relationship. Put that in today's context and it sums up to... Yawn!!! What??
Now a days relationships are a three step process:
Step1: Bump - you meet someone by coincidence or accident. It may be love at first sight or a burning loin somewhere! Whichever way you look, there is a chemistry that is somehow brought into the picture.
Step2: Hump - From the first date to the first night is a breeze. Some say that it is the best way to know someone!! I guess it provides an intimate evaluation of where one stands to take this to the next level or maybe the next step!
Step3: Dump - The chemistry is all wrong. Somehow the realization of no connection, incompatibility or even "you are not the one" quotient becomes clear. So it is a sweet, no-hard-feeling bye-bye time! Till we meet again, if in time of need or in another situation, it was good knowing each other.
I feel this philosophy of Bump-Hump-Dump works very well now a days. So what if it did not last? Atleast you met someone. The burning loin was put off for a while. And no attachments or hard feelings!
Ain't life simple???
Have a good week!!
;-))
22 comments:
Relate with the sentiments...
As man strive to reach heights, anything that binds, takes his time and freedom become a nuisance...and when both sides feel the same, saying bye bye is so easy...
Is that the end of what we call civilisation?
see more of you..
devika
#devika - rightly said. many killed civilization long ago! what some of us thrive on its reminiscent ashes! there is hope in that, at the least!! ;-))
Hi Deep!
Why thrive on the ashes..there's always chance to rebuild, no?
As we do here...connecting minds across the globe...'hopefully' building lasting relationships...
Hope more and more do it...
Wishes
devika
Little wonder our relationships are flimsy and short-lived like never before. Relationships have become objective and are usually a basis for sometime to be achieved!
Too much communication (electronic), too little inter-personal communication and lack of quality time and effort combined with selfish objectives have redefined the term relationship!
Sad!
#devika - sure we can build!! that is the hope!! ;-))
#rakesh - you picked up two important detriments: objectivity of relationships and lack of communication!! that is so very true!!
i duuno dude..it aint that easy to forget after the dump.... maybe that the indication that this system is indeed at fault ?
It's a sad trend but then there does exist good olden kinda love too :)
#thearmguyspeaks - yup! there is a big hole in the system!! but how many even realize that!!
#sameera - oh yes!! it does exit!! the good old warm priceless everlasting love!! ;-))
It happens often these days, but not with everyone. The last r'ship I had was long-term. After we broke up, I hv been single for many years now. So, it depends on the individual.
Keshi.
keshi - i agree. but the trend is catching up!
that means Im old-fashioned :)
Keshi.
#keshi - it is good to be old fashioned!! ;-))
Hi,
Not surprising in this fast-food world with low-attention spans.
The only true love is love at first sight; second sight dispels it. :-)
Cheers,
The only relief in this post is to know that the hump was that the burning loin feeling was put off ( whew!( I have a college going son you see & its times of AIDS)).
Well this is not a very new concept, let me tell you. If at all, it is like as if the new generation is getting more sensible. Earlier it was like ' wham bam thank you mam!' To which some got the answer ' whir stir , get lost sir'.
Jokes apart, i feel that relationship is the only ship that has drowned the world :D
Relating is more welcome term!
#salil - that is a good one!! thanks!! ;-))
#mona - spot on!! i am hopeful of the sense that is still evident in many! ;-))
Satish..
It is because of the pace..
slow down.. lose something.. enjoy some loses..i don't care for a job which keep J away from baby B and T..I don't care wasting my time simply sleeping under the shades..
i will never kill myself for any idea..i love finishing 234th in a race where 500 people participate..
Living an ordinary life is the most difficult thing..
As the Old Red Indian Cheif said..
Don't spit on earth because you are spitting on your grandfather's face..
Nice knowing you more satish..
each time getting more related too...
take care
J/MIP
#mip - thanks!! your words of wisdom is always so interesting and priceless!! ;-))
in some ways yes :)
Keshi.
It is sad to see what is happenng these days.should it be so easy just three steps ,or should it be difficult so that the hunt goes on and it takes a while to be captured and then loved.I think this way there is a value in the relationship and the dump is not so easy because you worked so hard to capture the love.
#keshi - ;-))
#starry nights - that is so very true: "there is a value in the relationship and the dump is not so easy because you worked so hard to capture the love."!!! in essence, love is losing its meaning now a days!
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